Growing up Urban Wild

Spring came this week with blustery winds and chill temperatures. Nonetheless our family has had plenty of outdoor time with neighborhood walks and spring planting in the garden. Today, however, the sun shone brightly and although temperatures were only in the low 50's we played outside.

For reflection I am going to document what the boys did:

With frost still on the ground we went outside and filled the bird feeders.
After breakfast the boys traveled by stroller to the light rail and on the return trip we went to the park. The boys discovered the twirly slide. Smiles were wide and S said, "I did it!" with pride after making it down. It's been many months since we have been to the neighborhood park. When our Spanish speaking three year old friend joined us, you could hear "rapido!" as they zipped down the slide. T rode the yellow dump truck and learned how moving back and forth you could make it go. Then it was a long walk home. The boys both rode in the stroller and walked. We had to stop by the landscaped yard with the rosemary - ooh, the boys just wanted to smell it. This was in the same yard where yesterday the landscaper had stopped to talk to the boys and had handed them a bit of "thundering plum" branch- with its pink flowers and reddish leaves. Now the boys find this tree all over.

After dinner they played with the neighbor boys who ran over to our yard as soon as they saw the boys emerge. The plans that had inspired the boys to go outside were pushed aside as the boys learned to negotiate sharing with their neighbors.

As the sun set the boys rode their balance bikes. S was with me and stopped and asked to touch the in places smooth and other places rough Pacific Madrone tree bark.

It was a day of well spent energy. The question I am pondering is how much of this was unstructured play and how much was structured? At the park the boys and their friend just ran. In the backyard with their real metal tools I helped mediate. What is the right balance between just free for all with other kids and learning to play with intent at the tender age of three?